Does Any of These Count as Being Abused?
Question by Allie Marie: Does any of these count as being abused?
I am a sixteen year old girl living in Kansas. I get good grades in school, and I can hold down a job very well. For the past few years, my parents have had their tempers escalating. It used to be simple threats of “I’ll kick the sh** out of you if you ever do that again,” Which used to not bother me, but it’s starting to. Lately, my stepdad has been really bad about namecalling. Saying “you’re just a stupid fu***ng bi*ch, you know that?” Sometimes my mom hits me when I do or say something wrong, and just a few weeks ago she yanked me around by my hair. One time in particular that I will never forget she said to me “You’ll never do anything good with your life, you’ll just be a drop out and have kids you won’t be able to support and be a drug addict and have a shitty life.” Yes I admit that I make bad decisions, but that’s part of being a kid and growing up. My parents act like the littlest mistakes are going to ruin my whole future.
They always tell me I never make good decisions though. If I didn’t, I would be just like they said. But I average a 3.2 GPA, I’m very friendly, I have a lot of teachers that really like me and see that I’ll do well in the future.
A couple months ago, my mom told me that she’d try to be better and stop keeping me away from my friends and let me go out because I’m old enough to make my own decisions. That lasted for two weeks before she went back to the way she was before. At the moment, I’m never allowed to leave the house for unknown reasons (because she claims that She doesn’t need a reason) So I do stupid things like sneak out. I don’t do anything illegal (other than breaking curfew) But I go over to a friend’s house and we play videogames and talk and that’s virtually it. Keeping me from my friends does bad things to my mood.
I’ve been struggling with depression because of this, and she claims that she never does anything wrong. It’s MY fault that I am the way I am. I’ve cut myself, and she’s seen it and all she said was “that’s not a good idea.” She just left it at that, and I’m still to blame for everything. Maybe she’s right though. She did have problems with her mom when she was my age, and I think that she’s doing the same thing to me subconsciously. I don’t know… Does anyone have any idea what I can do to be helped? I can’t live like this any more.
Best answer:
Answer by Young swagg
ALL THOSE ARE ABUSE!!YOU R PARENTS WILL RUIN YOUR LIFE IF THEY CONTINUE.There actions have already started having effects on you [the cutting and depression].Your mother is experiancing a lot of emotional difficulty which is why she is so inconsiderate.Please inform someone of authority that will assist you and your parents.
Answer by Maria b
Yes their actions and words constitute abuse. They need counseling. Maybe you could suggest this tp them. I hope things improve for you.