I’m So Depressed. It Is All Piling and I Can’t Bear With It Any Longer.?
Question by CL: I’m so depressed. It is all piling and I can’t bear with it any longer.?
(1) I’m having personal problems with my dance company. I’m in this dance company in school that gives out scholarship to the students. I’m getting 30% of that scholarship. The thing is I think I’m overweight for it. We are more of ballet type of dance. Before someone from our company was removed because she was fat. Our mentor is always reminding me of my weight. By the way, I’m 132 lbs and 5’3″-5’4″ in height. I’m really trying my best in loosing weight but sadly I can’t do crash diet. I have this sickness, I’m not sure what it is exactly, something called like gas pain. I’m not sure because the doctor in the emergency just said it and I was still dizzy in pain. Anyways, the thing is crash diet is a no no to me. But I’m still doing it despite the effects because I really want to get thin. My Mom told me that I’m perfectly fine but hearing that from my Mom I think it is not true. I’m very conscious of my weight and I’m getting all shy when I see my reflection. Because all of my fat goes to my thighs and butt which is ridiculously ugly. Exercise is no good for me as well because I don’t have time for real. I’m a graduating student and work is ridiculously piled up. I’m also worried with the dance company because I don’t want to be kicked out because of my weight. I’m also drinking dietary supplement pills to help me loose weight but I’m very disappointed because instead of loosing weight I’m gaining them! I’m eating yogart and oatmeal like crazy. I’m only drinking warm water as well.
(2) I’m all stressed with dance and school work resulting to hideous pimples invasion. Before I had a flawless face with minimal, I mean minimal pimples, but ever since last month I noticed that pimples in my forehead and some other parts are popping like crazy. There are so many nights that I have to work in the morning leaving me no sleep at all. I feel very ugly now. I’m losing my confidence drastically.
(3) Last but not the least, all of my close friends had boyfriend and I’m the one left behind. What’s more one of them just got together with my crush. So, its like, I feel so ouch. I don’t know how to explain it. Even if its just a crush, I mean she knows that I like him but still… Now, I have to act all happy for them even though its painful inside me..
I just want to release everything inside me and hope someone could give me an advice. I’m really depressed right now and don’t know who to talk to. I can’t talk to my friends because they are part of the problem. I can’t talk to my Mom, its very hard to explain everything to her. At least someone in here…
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Answer by RWPossum
As a rule, when a person is depressed people will say, see your doctor, which is generally good advice, but you should be aware of the cautions experts are expressing about very young people and antidepressants. The side effect risks are higher than with adults. What’s really troubling is the fact that with some people these drugs can have the reverse effect and trigger suicidal thinking. So, if you were to take one, it would be very important for you to stay in touch with your feelings and watch out for these thoughts.
Unfortunately, the non-drug treatments for depression, which are proven effective, are not advertised constantly on TV, like antidepressants.
The trend in psychotherapy for mood disorders is toward teaching people new ways of thinking and developing new habits. The approach, called cognitive-behavioral therapy, is practical. It’s concerned with the here-and-now, as opposed to how problems began.
A very popular book, The Feeling Good Handbook by David D. Burns, uses the principles of this approach.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_D._Bu…
Self-help methods for depression can be useful, by themselves or as part of a course of therapy with a professional, but I want to tell you that sometimes people will try self help, fail to reach their objectives, and blame themselves. Also, it’s not clear how good the methods are for people with severe depression.
The self-help approach that’s the simplest in that it doesn’t involve a lot of thinking is lifestyle. Stephen Ilardi, a university psychologist, developed a depression program based on six lifestyle factors. It’s explained in his book The Depression Cure.
http://www.psych.ku.edu/tlc/Therapeutic%…
The University of Maryland Sleep Center
http://www.umm.edu/sleep/sleep_hyg.htm
The Handbook of The Handbook of Self-Help Therapies says that some popular books for insomnia are based on proven self-help principles, such as Can’t Sleep, Can’t Stay Awake: A Woman’s Guide to Sleep Disorders by Meir Kryger.
Having read about the success cognitive-behavioral therapy has had with many different problems, I was reading about CBT for weight loss with interest recently. The book Cogntive-Behavioral Treatment for Obesity gives instructions for clinicians dealing with obese clients. One of its principles is that clients should be realistic about how much weight loss they can achieve and maintain. I hate to say this, but it occurs to me that if being overweight is a chronic problem with you, it may be that dance is not what you’re cut out for. But don’t take my word for it. Talk it over with a doctor and a psychologist.