Dealing With a Family Member With a Drug Addiction.. Help!!?
Question by smaceroni: Dealing with a family member with a drug addiction.. help!!?
OK my sister has been addicted to Ambien for about 4 years now. She has through detox and rehab twice and hasnt gotten better. She is still very much addicted and supoosed to be going into another detox/rehab. She has been supposed to go nor for 2 weeks but everyday comes up with new excuse or chickens out. I have been supportive or encouraging but now its getting hard for me to be that way cause it hard for me to believe that she is actually going to go. She gets mad when I try to give her “tough love”. She gets mad that my parents and I never went to some type of counseling to learn about her problem. She says that since I have never been addicted I dont know what its like. I understand that, but it doesnt take a rocket scientist to know that its going to be pure hell to go through detox and rehab and stay clean. I just dont know what to do or say to her anymore. Has anyone been in this situation? What should I say or do? She is 34 and Im 26
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Answer by donkeyscommand
First of all, give her sympathy. Yes she’s addicted but I can understand how she feels. She is right to the extent that you don’t understand. ‘Tough Love’ seems to be necessary in this situation though. She does need to be told but she’s helpless and has no real wish to stop because she knows what going to happen. She’s very upset and just needs your help. Being a sister means stopping and be firm but caring. She’s your sister and you want to help. Tell her you just want to help but she really needs to get herself together. Try to think of activities that make her happy or made her happy before the drugs. She needs your help. be there for her and she’ll want to. It’ll be hard but it’s necessary. Good luck.
Answer by D.D
NOW is the time you could benefit from talking to trrained people about all this, and ‘what you can do and say”………..because they go into this a lot……
suggestions; join alanon, narc a non…….or ask someone at an aa meeting where the groups are, or find online groups ……….see below
You need to understand the typical different ‘roles’ all of your family plays in this, and the role you are playing, so you can break out of it, and be healthy , even if she never gets there, herself…..
You have gotten to the point where you realize there is nothing you can do, and that you need to take care of yourself, and stop being sucked into her problems…….
It is ok not to ‘rescue’ her, and it is ok to be well
If it were me, id call a rehab place and ask them questions….
then i would use EFT to clear all the bad stuff out and reenforce the good stuff in my mind and emotions, and just give her the info and let it go
then i would give her the info that some people are looking at addictions like a hormone deficiency, also and give her that info …below
and then i would get on with my life…….
Find a mentor you admire…….build your successes, find your friends, and close people
‘let go, let God’ is the saying……..
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